Introduction
In this article, let’s revisit some points about happyness. Some of them I already knew, some of them feels fresh.
Reference
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTmixSgeOI0
Happyness formula
happyness = what you have / what you want
Working on what you have is hard, try to work on the denominator
Three factors of happyness: enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose
- satisfaction: its your reward for striving, for working, for even suffering
How to find purpose?
You need to answer, or try to find the answer of the following two questions:
- why am i alive
- for what I’m willing to die
It is hard to answer the second question, but let’s try to find the answer for the first question.
Why am I alive?
To experience, to learn.
To experience different aspects of the world and as a human.
To learn the knowledge and skills with which I can help SOME others, influence others.
今天有个朋友跟我说，ta想的是先趁着还很火的时候多捞钱。等到不火的时候可能要downgrade到类似FDA NIH这种的工作。但是没有说现在还往回去找的。
Social Network
social network is like the junk food of social life. Spending time on social network is like eating chips.
Spend max 30 mins a day across all social network platforms, and focus more on face to face social life.
- Here I need to improve as I do not have enough face to face social life.
Death and Fear
Beat fear by experiencing fear and making it ordinary.
Here and Now
Don’t be a time traveler, thinking about the past and the future.
In average a person spend 30-50% of the time thinking about the future.
Just be mindful of here and now, experiencing your life, live your current life well.
无常 (impermanence)
- nothing lasts and it doesn’t matter
- every emotion has an equilibrium
- make smarter decisions on the upside
- worry less on the downside
How to do the above, and do it better
- think about it
- make it as a habit
- go share it, and you will never lose it